The first few months following affair discovery can be an extremely challenging time. The likelihood is that you will be exceptionally vulnerable to your emotions. Because of this emotional upheaval, Affair Healing strongly advise against making any important life changing decisions until you return to some semblance of calm. Furthermore, be sure to seek help so that you are adequately supported in these difficult times.
If you are feeling a little overwhelmed, take heart in the fact that affair discovery can leave even the toughest person feeling traumatised. And when we are traumatised the brain chemistry is not best suited to decision making. This is because your emotions are likely to swing wildly as your brain attempts to process the trauma. The pain will ease as your emotional strength increases. Always remember that there will be ample time to take important decisions later when you better understand the situation and are more capable to act on your decisions.
During the early days of affair recovery, calmness can be deceptive, you may have a calm day where everything seems to clarify and you will feel ready to make decisions, but the next day panic and disorder return.
When you initially experience these brief moments of calm, take these respites as recuperation time, instead of trying to quickly put everything in its place. Take the time you need to process and comprehend what has happened. Today you may feel that the answer is before your eyes and that your spouse’s behaviour has said all that is necessary, whereas tomorrow you may feel the deepest love in years. Take heart and hunker down, this is the beginning of the new improved you and Affair Healing wants to help you to grab it with both hands.